The real meaning behind polygamy

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Polygamy is one thing, marrying sisters is another

God said not to marry sisters while one of them is alive. Leviticus 18:18

Mr Elisha Koli with his first wife who died in 1999. The couple had two children, Erick and Mercy (not in picture). PHOTO | Larry sang and family album

By HILLARY SANG, hillarysang@hotmail.com
Posted Tuesday, November 2 2010 at 20:26

Polygamy is not news in Kenya, except when somebody like Akuku Danger marries over 46 wives and sires over 200 children. But the case of one Elisha Koli is rather unique. He has four wives... and two of them are biological sisters.

At 41, Mr Koli has had six children and four wives. The first wife had two children before she died in 1999 after a short illness. A week later, her six-year-old daughter died. Mr Koli was left with his son, who was only a year old.

“I decided to marry many wives because of the discouragement I experienced when my first wife died. I thought it would be better if I had more than two wives,” Koli said.

He married his second wife, Josephine, in 2000. She took care of the boy and lived in Bunyore, Emuhaya District, where Mr Koli’s first wife had also lived.

Three months later, he married Mildred, his third wife. A few months later, Mildred’s sister, Evelyn, joined the new family as a house-help. Little did she know that she was going to share a husband with her sister.

“I noticed that she behaved well like her sister and I thought I could marry her,” he said.

Mr Koli’s third wife, Mildred and his fourth wife, Everlyn. PHOTO | Larry sang and family album.

Mr Koli saw no problem with marrying sisters and he approached Mildred, who told him that he could go ahead if the family agreed.

He spoke to their parents and brothers and they did not oppose the marriage. Mr Koli then met with elders and was given the go-ahead.

He married Evelyn and rented a house for her in Kawangware 46, approximately 400 metres from Kawangware Muslim where Mildred lives. Mr Koli paid bride price for the sisters at the same time and says it has been a happy union. Mildred has two children but Evelyn has none.

The former student of Esongolo Primary School, Ebwali Secondary School and later Kisumu Polytechnic has had an eventful life. Born the first of eight children, he at one time was forced to fend for his siblings.

When his father, who was then “a drunkard”, married his second wife, Koli’s mother called it quits, leaving the young man to look after his siblings. Their father virtually moved house to stay with his new wife.

The young man was left with no option but do menial jobs, like harvesting sand, to get money for subsistence.

He would assign them duties in the morning before going to school and later rush home in the evening to check if the sand was bought.

“The reason I look after my wives well is because of the experience I got then. I consider them as my siblings,” Mr Koli said.

Things changed for the better four years later when their parents reunited and children enjoyed the comfort of a real family life. This became a good platform for him because his father paid his high school fees.

“He paid fees for Form One and Two at once and later Form Three and Four also at once,” Mr Koli said. Their father stopped drinking and got saved. This created a new life for Koli who joined the Kisumu Polytechnic where he studied telecommunication and later landed himself a job at Eve Africa Telecommunication Company.

He was attached to the Kenya Armed Forces and later the Kenya Postal Telecommunication Company as a communication technician. He has also worked with Commtel Engineering Africa, Simoco Europe, Distributed Communication and Radio Frequency System Company.

“When I have Sh3,000, I give Josephine Sh1,200, Mildred Sh1,000 and Evelyn Sh800,” said Koli.

He explains that Josephine gets a large share because she has two children and is taking care of the first wife’s child; Mildred follows because she has two children and Evelyn less because she does not have a child.

He adds that he spends more time with Evelyn because she does not have any children, so he considers himself her child.

Source http://www.nation.co.ke/News/-/1056/1045660/-/11igf7cz/-/

Is Polygamy Biblical?

Polygamy is Biblical? Yes but unfortunately we have been taught the contrary. There are many Bible verses on polygamy in fact we hold a polygamy Bible in our hands. Many think since Church Founders banned it they must be right. Nothing can be further from the truth. Just because something is banned by a culture doesn't mean it's wrong. These are the same church people who enslaved people and hung many for nothing. There is no way anyone should put the word of GOD to the side and think they know better. No one knows what's better than GOD.

Polygamy leads to a longer life.

Do you want to live a little longer? Get a second wife. New research suggests that men from polygamous cultures outlive those from monogamous ones.

After accounting for socioeconomic differences, men aged over 60 from 140 countries that practice polygamy to varying degrees lived on average 12% longer than men from 49 mostly monogamous nations, says Virpi Lummaa, an ecologist at the University of Sheffield, UK.

Lummaa presented her findings last week at the International Society for Behavioral Ecology's annual meeting in Ithaca, New York.

Rather than a call to polygamy, the research might solve a long-standing puzzle in human biology: Why do men live so long?

Modern Polygamy in the U.S.

This mom is very pretty and understanding. It seems so hard to find women like this these days. She puts family first in her life. She is in a modern polygamist marriage that is going fine. Listen to her on this video tell how she felt about her husband having two wives.

Watch the video and post your comment.

Working class wives in a polygamist marriage.

This interview with working class wives in a polygamist marriage is a real eye opener. When most people think of polygamy they think of polygamist cults. That is not true, there are millions of working class women that would choose Christian polygamy if it was an option.

Watch the video and see first hand how working mothers tell their feelings about being happy in a polygamist marriage.

GOD Blesses large families.

2 Chronicles 11:21.

"Now Rehoboam loved Maachah the granddaughter of Absalom more than all his wives and his concubines; for he took eighteen wives and sixty concubines, and begot twenty-eight sons and sixty daughters."

GOD loves Polygamy just as much as any marriage.

Christians today think GOD has changed his view on the family structure. Nothing can be further from the truth. God loves and supports families that have more than one wife.

Not to say cults should be making anyone marry anyone especially kids. But grown adults need to be able to make their own choice for their family structure. GOD gave us adults this right and we should see it for it's benefits for us, not the taboo society has attached to it.